Failure Often Comes Before Success
If it isn’t happening right now, it doesn’t mean it never will. Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. I had a very wise mentor in my life and she was coaching me through a difficult time at my work place. She gave me the wisest advice during a time of turmoil and uncertainty. She said: “It’s not done falling apart. Sometimes everything needs to fall apart before it can be rebuilt. Trust the process.” This advice sticks with me always…sometimes life needs to fall apart before we can really build what we are looking for. It’s okay to fall apart and it’s okay to fail.
But! We often times are so afraid of things going wrong or failing, we avoid the things that can bring us to success. The solution to this dilemma is to make friends with failure. How?! How can it be possible to make friends with something we are so fearful of?! One way to begin on this unique journey of friendship is to have high intentions, but low attachment. You do all that you can do to meet your goal and get that desired outcome, but once you’ve done all that you can do…let it go. Accept that sometimes you do not get the intended result (after lots of hard work), and THAT IS LIFE. Trust the process and keep moving forward towards your goal because sometimes the universe has other plans, better plans, plans that are better suited towards your beautiful life. So, notice when you’ve become too attached to the results and when this attachment is causing fear. Has this fear become so great that it is paralyzing you and preventing you from moving forward? Remember, fear is the great paralyzer!
If you want to go after the success, know that failure is usually a part of the equation. I recently read this quote from an inspirational reading: “You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner? The master has failed more times than the beginner has ever tried.” Mistakes, setbacks and failures are simply unavoidable, and the only problem with them is when you resist learning from them. When things do not go your way, stay positive, stay aware of new possibilities and trust the process. In conclusion, living a life of high intentions and low attachment is a way to live with ease and calm as you ride the ups and downs on the journey towards success.
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